My BFF who recently gave birth to her lovely little girl (my god daughter) asked me recently why women want children against all odds.
You see my BFF and I both got married quite young and we both have these great marriages where our hubbies are our best friends (besides each other of course). And the truth be told I am so crazy about DH that for years I couldn’t contemplate the idea of sharing him with someone else, even our own little one. I guess after eleven years of marriage we now have enough room in our hearts to share.
I guess I always did want a baby. At school I was the girl most likely to be first married (close) and first to have a child (not anywhere near). I am crazy about babies and I’ve always thought I’d want one. But I never had that, “Gotta have it now” feeling. And for a while I honestly thought we would be fine living our lives with no children. We have such full and happy lives. DH and I have done loads of travelling, although not enough yet! I have a career I really love. I have the best husband, a great home, a family I (mostly) adore. So a life without children for me would never be empty.
That is until earlier this year, when I was blind-sided by this overwhelming desire to have a baby. I’ve thought a lot about where the desire came from and why it so completely overwhelmed me. Was it jealousy because my SIL was pregnant? Was it just the biological clock ticking, this all started just before by 34th birthday? Was it that I had totally ignored what I really wanted for the last eleven years and so when it came up it overwhelmed me? I honestly have no real idea.
To compare with that I have met women who have always wanted a baby and don’t feel like there lives will be complete without one. What makes you want a baby against all the odds, what makes you put yourself through the ongoing heartache to bring a new life into this world.