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Forgive me if you follow my amazing hubby’s blog, because I am about to tell you all about our TV interview, which he has already written about. But I want to share my perspective because I am so damn excited about this show airing tonight that I can’t hold it in.
So a few weeks back on the Fertilicare Forum Kitty posted that Carte Blanche Medical* were looking for volunteers to talk about Male Factor Infertility. Yes they were ambitious enough to be looking for men willing to talk about their infertility and their feelings.
*Carte Blanche is South Africa’s answer to 60 Seconds, a show which does serious investigative journalism, often taking a closer look at the hard issues. The Medical series is obviously focused on Medical issues.
DefTTC and I talked about it and pondered long and hard. While both of us were up to doing the interview and talking about our challenges and how we were dealing with them, we had a huge concern about my work situation. I think I’ve told you before that I am a contractor hoping to go permanent and I really feared that there was no way they would take me on permanently knowing that I am trying very hard to be knocked up, never mind that we haven’t used contraception for seven years! We also agreed we didn’t want to do the show with our faces blocked out, voices and names changed to protect us from the eyes of the world. If we were going to do it we would do it openly and proudly. I left it up to DefTTC to make the decision after all it was him who was going to have to share on National TV the details of his condition.
About a week later I got home from work for DefTTC to tell me that he decided to submit his story that day via their website. Well within minutes of him telling me this, the phone rang, it was the producer of Carte Blanche who wanted to talk.
Long story short the producer, cameraman and presenter turned up at our house on a Thursday morning a little over three weeks ago to interview us.
My amazing husband sat in front of a camera and told the world (well probably only South Africans) about our infertility. He sat up straight, spoke openly and never once flinched from looking the presenter in the eye or blushed no matter how personal the question. I have to say I’m not sure I have ever been prouder of my man. He was amazing. His words brought tears to my eyes a few times as he talked about his side of this terrible journey. I think we women all too often forget that our men just show us their strong faces. That all too often they are actually soft as marshmallow inside and hurt just as much as we do. I think all too often we forget that our men are trying to protect us from further hurt, are trying to be strong for us. I certainly know that DefTTC is my rock and keeps me on steady ground.
I won’t share the gory details of what we said, because you should all watch Carte Blanche Medical tonight on M-Net at 7pm and get everyone you know to watch it too. This is about educating people about MFI, about letting them know they are not alone, that there is hope for treatment and that Male Factor Infertility is not something to be ashamed of.
And so last night they showed the preview of our show and our faces went out on National TV on one of the most watched shows in the country. So we sent out quick SMSs and posted on Facebook and Twitter letting everyone know to watch. Anyone who is asking why we are simply telling them to watch the show and they will know all about it.
I imagine we are likely to have quite a few conversations and questions tomorrow…
Once it has aired we are hoping to be able to post the actual video on our blogs, so all our overseas readers will also be able to see how well my hubby did.