We have now had two ante-natal classes and I have had a few questions about them, so here’s a bit of an update.
It was a bit of a challenge getting Chris to the classes. Not that he really put up much fight, but he argued that we both have quite a lot of experience with babies (obviously not our own) but baby sitting others, and I was almost 16 when my sister was born and had a lot of hands on experience. Not that for a moment he was suggesting we knew it all, but that how much value could we really get out of bathing a doll.
For me it was less about what I could learn and more about finding other preggie couples whose babies would be close in age to ours and couple’s whose experience of pregnancy didn’t all start from the infertile mindset. I wanted to be reminded that pregnancy and childbirth and parenting are so natural and normal for so many people and to put that in perspective that it CAN be like that for us too.
Also I am determined to give breastfeeding my very best shot and I want all the support I can possibly get on this one. I think breastfeeding twins is not going to be the easiest undertaking but it is important to me. So when I started looking around for classes I started with a recommendation from a friend, but unfortunately the woman who runs those classes has just had a baby of her own and she recommended I get in touch with the Breast Feeding Clinic who run a programme.
There seems to be a bit of a misconception that Ante-Natal classes are all about natural birth. I think those are the old La-maz (not sure how to spell that) classes, where it was all about breathing thorugh the pain. Well that is my preconceived idea anyway. The classes I am going to are really a good cover of all sorts of things.
The first week was all about pregnancy discomforts and warning signs and the things that could go wrong and what to look out for and what to do about them. Very informative, well it would be if I hadn’t already read just about every pregnancy book on the market and read all the posts on the infertility forum where it sometimes feels as though you ‘know’ someone who has every one of those scary things happen. But still I learnt a couple of things.
This week was more targeted at those planning for a natural birth as it was half about the pain management options, but the second half was pregnancy massage, so still something in it for me.
Most importantly though to me I really like both the women I have met who work at the Breast Feeding Clinic. They are what Chris and my friend Les calls Boobie Nazis. The message is simple, breast best, forula BAD! In fact the one woman put it very simply, when it comes to feeling your babies the preference order is like this:
- Breast is best
- Expressed Breast milk, next best
- Donated breast milk is great
- Formula if you must
And while I know that this may not work out so well for me, I like this thinking. I really do believe that breast feeding is 97% in your head and that if I make up my mind I can make this work, especially with the right support and I really do feel like these women at the clinic will give me exactly that support. Also my friend who is a bit of a milk cow and has really mastered breastfeeding will be there to hold my hand and offer advice and encouragement all the way (L I hope it’s not an insult to call you a milk cow, but you are doing so brilliantly, I am in awe!). Let’s hope I don;t have to eat my words and that I can get this right and give these babies the very best first gift I can.
Classes to come include watching the birth videos (both vaginal birth and c-section), breastfeeding, the practical class on how to bath the baby, change nappies etc. Am I learning a lot, no probably not, but am I enjoying it, YES!